When Love Doesn’t Stay Faithful

I find myself asking a question that so many people who’ve been hurt by betrayal have asked before me: If someone claims they love you as much as they say they do, how could they still cheat? Shouldn’t love mean giving all of yourself to the other person—your loyalty, your heart, your eyes fixed only on them?

Love, in its truest and purest form, is faithful. Real love doesn’t just speak in words; it lives in actions. It shows up in the choice to remain loyal, to protect the heart of the person you love, to honor the bond you’ve built together. But sadly, not everyone who says “I love you” understands that kind of love—or has the maturity to live it out.

Cheating doesn’t always mean there was no love at all. Sometimes people really do feel love, but they’re also driven by selfishness, insecurity, or brokenness that they haven’t dealt with. They may crave constant validation, fear commitment, or chase temporary thrills, even while holding onto someone who genuinely cares for them. That isn’t the fault of love itself—it’s the fault of someone not protecting and honoring it.

Here’s the truth: love isn’t just about feelings. It’s about commitment. It’s about discipline. It’s about saying, “I choose you, every single day, even when it’s hard.” If someone cheats, what they’re revealing isn’t a flaw in the person they betrayed—it’s a flaw within themselves. Their inability to be faithful says more about their character than it ever could about your worth.

And maybe that’s the hardest but most freeing part to accept: someone else’s betrayal is not proof that you weren’t enough. It’s proof that they weren’t ready—or willing—to love in the way love was always meant to be lived out.

True love does exist. It’s faithful. It’s steady. It’s loyal. And when the time is right, the love that’s meant for you will be the kind that doesn’t wander, because real love doesn’t look elsewhere—it’s too busy protecting what it’s been blessed with.

Prayer for Healing from Betrayal

Lord, You see the hurt that betrayal leaves behind—the questions, the anger, the heartbreak. I bring this pain to You and ask You to remind me that my worth is not defined by someone else’s choices. Heal the parts of me that feel unlovable, restore the trust that was broken, and help me believe in the kind of love that mirrors Yours—faithful, steady, and true. Guard my heart as I wait on the love You’ve prepared for me, and remind me that I am already fully loved by You. Amen.